For those who followed my post birth vagina questions/story, I wanted to post this entry from a man that
I found as an online response to a kind of journal entry in ELLE magazine by a mother who writes about her upset post partum with both the issue of being "roomier" after birth but moreso the silence surrounding any discussion of this. Ultimately what she arrives at in the article once she resumes sex is that sex is actually even better post baby and body changes. But what was really cool was this comment about her article from a dad. And, by the way, I am not w/ the vagina commenter. He did apologize profusely, copped to it being about his defensiveness about his problems, and wrote an "ode" to my vagina. I do believe he is deeply in love w/ me and wants to be w/ me, but nothing can erase that he jabbed at my most precious and hidden and vulnerable part, after I shared and trusted so much with him, while knowing he had a lot of sexual AND other problems. At the least it was a very destructive thing for him to do, and to me shows that he has a lot of conflict about women and I am not going to get into the middle of that.
Anyhow, on to the inspiring man post off ELLE:
"As a man and a father of one son (now 16 months old), I must say I felt a need to respond and offer the male perspective on this subject. My wife was reading the article online and shared it with me. She admitted that she had the same concerns and anxieties relative to her body changing, both inside and out. And, with a GIANT 10 pound, 3 ounce son born naturally, well, things did change. But, not in a bad way. To me, the only thing the pregnancy and birth did was to increase my love and desire for my wife on all levels. Sure, her tummy isn't as hard as it once was and her "cash and prizes" look quite different than before our son. However, she's even more beautiful to me than before which, is admittedly something I couldn't fathom happening before. Sex is just as good (if not better) than before. The feeling is still just as wonderful to each of us. She did have a bit of pain at first but, it is something we took our time and worked through. Now, our intimacy is intense and moving ahead full steam. Our son is 16 months old and given me a new outlook on life and my relationship with my wife (which was always strong). I know that without a doubt, she is stronger, better and a more beautiful person than I can ever hope to be. Women are the stronger sex and I thank you for what you go through to bring life into this world. You're all beautiful in my book. In every way imaginable. I wish you all happiness."