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mamas of four(or more) talk to me...Submitted by urbanearthmama on Thu, 08/28/2008 - 2:32pm.
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Do steps count? Went from being a single mama of one to a partnered mama of four within a year. Three of those are now teenage boys, with a nearly 4 year old girl, so the sitch is a little different. I will say that it has been both crazy making and wonderful. How's that? no time to write much now. Okay I've been tying to compile my thoughts and I really think what it comes down to is if YOU want to have another baby or not. Easier said than done, I know but...I'm thinking...either decision you make will have advantages and disadvantages and either way you're going to sometimes wonder "what if..." you did the other way. However...and this is the hard part and what I've been thinking about myself so much lately....you have to decide if you really want to do that. Lately I'm feeling like I just don't have it in me to raise one more baby. I don't. I'm done with being stuck at home with little ones. I'm done with waking up so much. I'm done with starting the diapering process all over again. I'm done with not taking more exciting/adventurous family outings/vacations with the bigger kids because the little ones are too little. I'm done with my summer activities revolving around when we need to get home for nap. So if I personally had to make the decision today, I'd hem and haw and wonder about it too but I think I'd ultimately say no to #5. So back to you. You're one behind me. 4 is a nice even number. You have the two big kids together and the two little kids together. No third wheels. You and your dh could do like me and mine do on the weekends, which is divide and conquer..."you take the bigs and I'll take the littles..." I know I am no help. I hope this is somehow coherent and in the slightest way useful. I guess you have to look at your career, your dh's school/career, your kids, etc. and really decide if YOU want to do it again. Good luck, E, I really really feel for you.
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...and it's hard, but worth it. My kids adore their new brother, but I just worry that none of them are getting the attention they need or deserve. That seems to be the biggest issue. Depedning on how old your kids are, it may be a little easier, especially if all of them are already in school. That way the baby gets attention too. It seems like I don't have the time to bond with Adrian like I should either. I do like having them all together, old enough to know what's going on, but young enough to be flexible.
Good luck on your choice...I think four is a good number.