Little girl peeing on my kid's back pack

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Tue, 08/12/2008 - 13:34 -- raspberrytoast

Today I blogged about my son calling me from school to pick up his back pack because a girl pee'd on it, but he didn't give me any deets. I thought it was kinda strange and funny because something like that would only happen to my kid, plus he hated that back pack.

However, now that I know the full story, I'm kinda pissed. Apparently the girl had forgotten her assigned agenda book so the teacher would not let her go to the bathroom, so she wet herself. I wanted to go to the office and explain that I was there to leave explicit instructions that if my kid needs to pee, he better get to go pee. I understand that there could be situations where kids abuse the going to the bathroom right, but it's only day 2 of school, and they prolly wouldn't be able to make that assumption at this point.

Now this poor little girl has wet herself in class, and I hope that teacher feels bad, because middle school is hard enough without publicly peeing on yourself and others.

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turtle's picture
Submitted by turtle on

What a hideous story! I don't really understand how not being allowed to go to the bathroom should EVER be a punishment or consequence for forgetting to bring something. I mean, yes, I guess I see what you are saying, that going to the bathroom could be a right that kids might abuse. But it seems like there's a difference there that a teacher could spot, he/she should be able to differentiate between abuse and you know, just having to pee! I feel pretty bad for that little girl... And yeah, I hope that teacher feels bad!!!

And I would be very tempted to ask the teacher what her bathroom policy was, exactly. Not having school-age kids yet, I don't know what's appropriate or not to ask teachers...but sheesh. This is probably why my husband will have most of the communicating-with-school duties- he used to be a school teacher and is good at being diplomatic, knows what being a teacher is like, is good at getting the system to 'work', etc.

So is your son getting a new backpack???

Find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough. -- Emily Dickinson

You want to do what you think is right and what matters to you, and if other people don't like it, as my father would have said, they can go fuck themselves. -- Amy Bloom

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Submitted by raspberrytoast on

Actually, we are gonna trade it to someone for a different back pack. I mean, we can clean it up, but my son wants to forget the incident as much as the little girl prolly does.

My son feels like they went over the rules yesterday,and that it is her own fault for forgetting her agenda book on the second day of school, and that she should have been able to hold it.

I think that you are right about going to the bathroom should not be used as a punishment, and there would be no way of knowing at this point if she was a bathroom user abuser kinda middle schooler. I remember trying to get out of class by going to the bathroom a million times. I was told no, but only after having already gone at least once.

If this little girl only knew how she has effected my son, and me, and now this blog. I don't think she would be less embarrassed, but life is strange.

The wise poet Rumi tells us--
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there
http://www.ponycherry.blogspot.com/

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Submitted by turtle on

Now I see your earlier blog re: the trade. Also the age of these kids-- going in your pants is bad at any age (post-potty training), but in 7th grade? ouch!

I dunno, did the teacher say, "If you don't bring the agenda book, you can't go to the bathroom." Ludicrous, even if she *did* say that. Or maybe especially. I can't decide.

I related the story to my husband, the ex-school teacher (he taught middle & high school grades at a private school and high school public). And he was equally horrified. He told me that there were several teachers at the public high school, where they had to write out hall passes for someone to go to the bathroom, who had blanket no-going-to-the-bathroom (or leaving room for any other reason, barring emergency) policies. Either out of laziness- didn't want to fill out hall pass and/or not wanting to take time to distinguish between someone who has to go and someone who wants to skip part of class/smoke in the bathroom, etc. or believing that their subject was just too important for anyone to leave. And it created a problem because the kids didn't have time to go pee or whatever between classes (they had 2 mintues), so he always had a couple of kids who had to go at the beginning of his class. When he would ask what was up- why they always had to go, it was because Mrs. or Mr. So-and-so wouldn't let them go. And he would get annoyed because if EVERY teacher did that, and kids could only go at lunchtime there would be a huge physiological problem! I dunno, I think not letting people pee is kinda torturous.

Okay, who knows why I feel so ranty about this today!!!!!! haa!!!! I think it just goes back to my issues with school authority figures and their seemingly random policies...ETA: oh also, probably because when I was in pre-school I asked the teacher, "Can I go pee-pee?" And she acted all horrified and yelled at me (at least, I thought she was yelly) for saying "pee-pee" instead of asking to go to the "lavatory." (I didn't even know that word!) WHATEVER, lady. Is my reaction NOW, but at the time I was traumatized and humiliated. So I guess I have issues with school and peeing. ;)

Find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough. -- Emily Dickinson

You want to do what you think is right and what matters to you, and if other people don't like it, as my father would have said, they can go fuck themselves. -- Amy Bloom

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Submitted by bearsmama on

What a horrid teacher! I really hope that you or that little girls mother calls the principal to complain! Imagine how horribly embarassed and upset that poor girl must have been. Children need to pee! Everyone needs to pee!

Ugh.

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Submitted by dahlia on

Poor kid. I just can't imagine. I hope the other kids are nice to her!

raspberrytoast's picture
Submitted by raspberrytoast on

I would totally call. If you gotta go you gotta go, and I think until proven otherwise, a 7th grader should be trusted to know when s/he has to pee.

The wise poet Rumi tells us--
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there
http://www.ponycherry.blogspot.com/

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Submitted by raspberrytoast on

I told my son to remember that she is the reason he isn't being made to deal with the expensive back pack. It would be cool if they ended up being friends.

The wise poet Rumi tells us--
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there
http://www.ponycherry.blogspot.com/

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Submitted by raspberrytoast on

wow, that sucks that happened to you at pre-school, but that's a perfect example of how that kind of behavior on a teacher's part can have a major impact on someone's life.
I mean, will this little girl go down in school history as the girl who pee'd in class?

I hated middle and high school. I felt it was all crazy weird authority crap. I graduated as a junior because I hated it so much. I could never understand why so much power was given to some people who didn't care about their work or who were just plain mean.

There were some really cool teachers, but far too few of them.

The wise poet Rumi tells us--
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there
http://www.ponycherry.blogspot.com/

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Submitted by bitch-face on

When I was in 7th I would have just walked out if my teacher didn't let me use the bathroom when I needed to which just proves that this was a good kid. Oh man that is rough. I'd have freaked if I were her mother

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Submitted by PattyCakes on

am i the only one that thinks its strange that the "little girl" peed her pants? 7th grade?

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