so here's the story-it's sort of dumb...maybe?
the guy that I'm seeing is someone I have known for a long time. Not long after we first met he hooked up with a mutual friend, right? They were together from then until this spring (um...over 6 years) in june we got together
I have known her for a long time but we've never been particularly close. she was supposed to come out and visit me and our mutual friend tonight...seeing as how I hadn't talked to her since may (hence-since he and I got together) and didn't have her number until she called me the other day - so...he had been talking to her but hadn't told her-and I told her because I didn't want her to come hang out, me either not say anything like the chicken shit douche that I am and then for her to find out later or for me to get drunk and fight with her at my house...so I feel like an ass, she reemed him last night for being a chicken and she hates us both. the worst part, I think, well...if I were her is that he broke up with her because he wanted to get married some day and settle down but not with her...then he turns around and he's with me-I think that would smart like the dickens...how bad should I feel? should I do anything?
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not bad. cus u didn't dp
not bad. cus u didn't dp anything out of malice. you will do better next time. i would feel bad too. But its true isn't it- that relashionships complicate our lives and our union with a person is bound to cause some kind of friction somewhere for somebody wether its our friends family or exes.
it's on your dude
he should have told her, especially since he's been talking to her since the breakup. I wonder why she hates you, maybe she thought they would get back together? ah, well. She's hurting so really all you can do is be a friend from a distance now. maybe she'll come around in a bit.
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yep...
I kind of think that she thought they would get back together...
um...sucks for her but it ain't gonna happen
yeah, I'm trying to just step back now and hope that she knows I', around if she needs/wants me...
and yeah, I know HE should have told her first...
"If nothing else, life in the suburbs promised that you might go from day to day without finding shit in our hair." ~ David Sedaris
"If nothing else, life in the suburbs promised that you might go from day to day without finding shit in our hair." ~ David Sedaris
yah it's a weird sitch
but I don't think you should feel bad in anyway. You weren't cause of their breakup or anything. It's weird cause she was/is a friend though.
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i think i'm getting concern for a friend
and being weirded out all jumbled together with this shit
"If nothing else, life in the suburbs promised that you might go from day to day without finding shit in our hair." ~ David Sedaris
"If nothing else, life in the suburbs promised that you might go from day to day without finding shit in our hair." ~ David Sedaris
Don't feel bad.
You didn't do anything wrong. You can date who you want, she doesn't own him, and you don't owe her anything. I think if you guys were best friends, you may have wanted to have a discussion at first, but it sounds like you weren't terribly close. And she's angry probably because she's still in mourning for what she's lost. They were together a long time! Whether there are still feelings there or not, it's hard to see your ex with someone else, especially someone you know! She would be pissed even if it wasn't you, probably. She'll get over it.
You're good, you did nothing wrong, appreciate your relationship with this guy for what it is for as long as you can! Smiles, sweetie!
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I don't think you should feel bad.
You didn't steal him away from her. You didn't lie or even lie by omission. It sounds like he kinda did? I hope it isn't going to cause any problems that you told her - I gather that they were still friends? Hm.
My DH's ex-fiancee and I were friends before (long before) he and I got together; they were broken up for a couple years before we started dating. She still doesn't talk to me really. There has never been any big proclamation of anger or anything. She's been to our house. But she doesn't really talk to me. Ever. He talks to her regular-like though. I just figure it's awkward?