Exceptional children and I'm learning to knit

Submitted by urbanearthmama on Wed, 07/23/2008 - 3:32pm.

I'm learning to knit, I am Very Bad At It! Smiling But am enjoying it and surly will improve.
I feel I need to find something to relax, I have a hard time relaxing unless I'm doing something productive, so maybe this will help. Hmmm.
Any advice on this would be apreciated.
Yesterday, Emmet had his 5 yearold pre-kindregarten check up. He is, of course, healthy and strng and tall. Has always been 75% in height/weight. DH took him and mentions to the Doc that he thought maybe Emmet was behind in reading/writing. No,no he is normal. (keep in mind we LOVE our ped.Dr and she has been ours since DD was born), she says, you can't compare the kids, Asher is an exception, she is exceptional...she has always been very advanced, etc, etc...
Well, thats nice to hear and all, but it made me sorta defensive. I think Emmet is exceptional, too. He is so, so loving. He is beyond selfless, he can share and REALLY mean it. He has a marvolus, sturdy little body that can jump off of everything. he is so very kind and sweet.
What about Fra? Has there ever been a child with more capacity for joy, in himself and others?
Cannot these things be judged as exceptional in this world?
(by the way, of course we all think I kids are awesome, and certainly I am Aware and DELEIGHTED that Asher is so very clever...its not that, I just can't bear to compare them. Not when they each have such amazing gifts)
Sorry, small rant.

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Submitted by urbanearthmama on Thu, 07/24/2008 - 7:40pm.

it is for Fra, since he is the baby and I figured he'd be hard on it and noone would mind the lumps... Smiling
I'll post a pic, it is a lovely soft Merino wool in shades of blue to match his eyes.
I find I enjoy it very much, find it very soothing.
Mummy's alright, Daddy's alright, they just seem a little weird...

Submitted by hollygolightly on Thu, 07/24/2008 - 6:49pm.

Being a teacher, I hate so very much that kindness, creativity, and compassion are ignored in regards to childrens' development. Just because one child is excellent at reading does not mean much. Yes, they might be, but other qualities should also be considered in a child's developmental milestones. Just my humble opinion.
Good luck with knitting. I started last summer and love it. I'm not very good but it gives me something to do while I sit down. Share your projects!
You must live, not simply exist.

Submitted by quadriviis on Thu, 07/24/2008 - 2:04pm.

My favorite knitting book for tips, tricks, and fixes is the Knitting Companion - it fits in my purse, sits nicely in my lap, is spiral bound which makes it especially handy, and is fairly cheap.
Don't forget your local library for how-to books!

Submitted by urbanearthmama on Wed, 07/23/2008 - 7:11pm.

I am inviting myself onto Ravelry.
Yes, I know my Dr meant very well, I just think they each great in their own little ways...
Mummy's alright, Daddy's alright, they just seem a little weird...

Submitted by Creatress on Wed, 07/23/2008 - 6:35pm.

I just started learning to knit, too! I am making a square for Michaels' Warm Up America Project. I feel bad, though, because while it is basically a square, it is pretty damn ugly...I feel kinda bad giving it to anyone.

I'll have to hit up ravelry, if it's that cool, mamas. Smiling *friending ensues*

24/MN. Queer, veg, AP mama to DD1.

Submitted by LV on Wed, 07/23/2008 - 6:15pm.

Be my friend too! i'm lucky violet over there also. It's great because there are tons of great FREE patterns for all ranges of knitters and you can ask all the questions you want. Good luck!!!

Submitted by Strange Quark on Wed, 07/23/2008 - 7:01pm.

"Fundamentally the markswoman aims at herself" DT Suzuki

Submitted by Henry on Wed, 07/23/2008 - 4:10pm.

I bet the doctor just meant in that area (or is somehow blind to the other areas) because kids are just different and all of them excel in certain areas, are "normal" in others and have room to develop other areas. But what's great is that you can see what each of them is great with. Sometimes that stuff gets missed. Somehow with kids people expect that they should all be one way or follow one path (but adults are allowed to be different) and I hate that.

Knitting-wise -- just practice. If you start out using yarn that is not too thick or thin, not too wild or fuzzy it may be easier because you can make progress and see what you are doing. A decent "how to knit" book would help too, for when you get in a bind or don't know what an instruction means. But mostly, like anything, it's practice, perseverance and interest that will get you there. There are magazines like "easy knitting" or something that are cool because they are cheap and have a bunch of different projects (when I was starting out it was more cost effective to do it this way, books cost a lot sometimes and single patterns add up pretty fast). I am still using a pattern for the first baby sweater I ever made. And experiment, take knitting risks, try new patterns and materials. Thats all!

Submitted by Strange Quark on Wed, 07/23/2008 - 3:49pm.

We'll knit together!!

Other than that, I absolutely agree with everything you've said. I dunno if you ever watched that TED video I posted, but it really has to do with this, if you're interested:

http://www.hipmama.com/node/38602

"Fundamentally the markswoman aims at herself" DT Suzuki

Submitted by Mercury on Wed, 07/23/2008 - 3:37pm.

maybe your Dr just meant it in context, like your daughter is exceptional at reading early, that's all. It is best not to compare kids but kind of hard to in sitches like this because well-meaning or not parents and docs end up comparing kids.

Your children sound delightful. That's so great that you recognize their individual strengths and exceptional abilities Smiling

MSPmedia
No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.
Alice Walker

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