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When your husband lies to you. Blatantly. And you find out.Submitted by enygma on Sat, 05/24/2008 - 7:17pm.
Two days ago I said to hubby, "yo, baby, let's make plans to go see that hip new Indiana Jones flick next Friday night. Maybe get a drink afterwards, maybe even do dinner somewhere." He said, "yo, baby, sounds groovy." So today he went to my brother-in-law's house to "watch movies and play games for a little while." I mean, I'm kinda pissed a little about that because I'm stuck at home all day with wee man and he doesn't get how much that can suck, especially because it's 100 degrees out and has been for the past week (which means no outside activities for us, thankyouverymuch). Anyway, so he went over to dick around with B, and I got over it, did some laundry, cleaned the kitchen, read with the wee man, watched some lame-o movie. Then my sister called me. "Hey," she said. "I'm not at home, so what's M's cell phone number?" I say, "well, I just tried to call him and he's not picking up. Why don't you just call your house?" "Well, they're probably still out," she said. "At the movies." (long pause) "What? What movie?" "Oh, you didn't know?" she said. "They went out to go see Indiana Jones." Sonofamuthafuckinbitch. Am I overreacting to be so hurt and angry about this? I'd be pissed. Is there any chance that he just forgot? Ya know, is he usually a fairly decent guy? My bf is awesome, but he's a dumbass sometimes about things. Or could the she be mistake and maybe they went to see another movie, but...I might be grasping for straws here. I dunno. I do know that I would be pissed, and that I would prolly have to explain that I am not only annoyed that he went to see a new movie w/o me, but that my feelings are hurt/angered because I apparently did not make the cut on the what's important to him today list... Sorry, there's no help in there. just some rambling. When he comes home, hand the wee one to him, exactly in the state that wee one is at the moment, walk out the door, and say, "I'm going to watch Indiana Jones, sucka."
but boys are so dumb sometimes that I just have to chalk it up the that... On dumb move pal. I'll bet that your BIL asked him to go on the fly & he just went with it & it probably never occurred to him that you'd be pissed ( lots of stuff just never occurs to men, in my opion of course). Or maybe he is still planning to go with you and just wants to see it again & again... SOrry mama. I hope you hold him to the date & drinks, lots of drinks. (nothing in his inbox, btw, so he deleted it) From BIL to M: What time you wanna go sucka? http://www.cinemark.com/theater_showtimes.asp?theater_id=278 Probably need to buy advance tickets, btw. M to BIL I think 12 would be good. Hmmm...on the fly would sound plausible if it weren't for two things: 1. Hubby took phone call from BIL in the other room this morning, getting up from his breakfast (that I made, btw) to chat about plans. 2. My sister said something along the lines of, "Oh, he didn't tell you they were going to go to the movies? That's pretty low." I think I might just wait until he gets home and play it by ear. See if he comes clean on his own. The thing that really gets me is that I spent an entire marriage before him being lied to over and over and over. And he knows how much I hate it when anyone lies to me, even about stupid petty things. Eh, we'll see how it plays out. i have a few reactions to this scenario |
I think you should make the same plans you had with him (movie, drinks, dinner) with a girlfriend. I think it is a weird thing to lie about. I mean, if he'd rather see it with his brother, can't he just tell you that?
I had a similar situation when I was in highschool (nightmare before christmas) saw it in the day with a friend, lied to my BF about it, and saw it later that same night with him. Ended up paying for tickets 3x (bf was a mooch). For the life of me I can't remember why I had to lie about it.