ya know the tired old parable about the little boy whose dad tells him to hammer a nail into the fence every time he is angry, and to take one out every time he is sorry? then the little boy says, but daddy all the holes are still there? that sappy shit?
well, that is what i am thinking about this afternoon what with the starting what are bound to be incendiary blogs (not because of their topics, but their tone) and then deleting them when they go awry. the holes are still there.
throwing your half formed thoughts out there with the conviction that you are right is a very foolish thing to do. i learned this the hard way on this very forum. and i have deleted one heated blog of my own, which fits that very description. the mama and i who went at it worked it out. i learned alot from it.
my plea is this...if you lack the courage of your convictions to blast your thoughts out there, then please don't. or put some thought into how you put it out there. i find the addition of humility to my tone sorts it out neatly most of the time.
another cheesy quote,the one about a little bit of knowledge is a dangerous thing, comes to mind too. looking up the word racism in a dictionary, are you serious?
anyway, what i learned from wise etta candy about the one blog i deleted was that in a way, it was fucked up to delete it cause after the first part, it wasn't just my shit i was deleting. so true. so if you lack the courage of your convictions, maybe consider deleting your original post and letting other's discussions stay put.
or best yet, don't post something incendiary or inflammatory if you can't hang.
i am a passionate, opinionated, well-read, highly educated person. i am also an incorrigible smart ass, and i can be a real bitch when i choose to. every day, if i look, i can see another reason to choose not to, to seperate my bitchiness, which is petty, from my indignance, and my rage from my outrage, and not only does it keep me from alienating myself from others, it clears my thinking and my feelings can be noticed by me rather than me just drowning in them. i think that is positive. i do think that passion and unfinished business can be sorted out and i do think that one is healthy and one is toxic.
anyway. just some ideas. and quit pulling blogs down, the holes are still there. maybe think twice about the size of the nail you are using though.