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could i change my mind?Submitted by sylvia_p on Mon, 06/12/2006 - 1:25pm.
so with this insurance debacle and me due to give birth at any moment, the home birth option is looking so much better to DH. he was so against it when we were discussing birth options months and months ago, but now for purely financial reasons, i can't tell if he's seriously considering it. my MIL is friends with mother-daughter midwives(which had she told me this months ago, i would have been working on this angle then), is it too late to change my mind? is it bad form to switch now and for what are mainly financial reasons? and how does the midwife situation work with birth certificates, etc.? i am kicking myself for not pushing the home birth option months ago. not to mention it would be so nice to have this sorted so i'm not freaking out every time i have a small contraction or twinge. to whom? is it not your birth? you can change your mind for any reason at any time. you owe no one anything. if finances present the opportunity to get you the birth you want, go for it. no one needs to understand or be happy with it but you. If I was the one you were switching to, I would have no problem taking you if you were low risk and seriously wanted a home birth, regardless of the reason it finally became your best option. We have women switch to the birth center because their OB is trying to bully them into a c section or an induction at 39 - 41 weeks all the time, and take them. What would be bad form would be to get insurance after the 9 days, say, well, I didn't go into labor, and now that I have my insurance, I'm going back to the hospital. See ya. Anyone can fill out a birth certificate, all you need is the form. Any self respecting midwife will have them with her. In FL, the forms need to be sent in within a certain amount of time. We send them in within 3 days from our center to make sure they are in on time. Sunflower the unflower i am a low risk pregnancy and my last labor was about 4 hours. i had wanted a home birth all along, but my husband and mother were against it. on a side note, my DD(5) thought it was a great idea and said she could wait in the living room like it was a waiting room. If your FIRST labor was only 4 hours, I think it is irresponsible to do anything but a homebirth, but of course I am extrememly biased. I think you should call the midwife if you sneeze too hard, personally. I think you have a good chance at an unintended home birth with that kind of history. Sunflower the unflower so the only thing I can say is that bad form is not what you should be worrying about right now--you go with the choice that is best for you and your family, and that includes financial considerations. I hope you find a solution that feels good and comfortable for you, that is the most important thing of all. |
I wish that I had done it but I was too afraid to make a decision. We lost our health care too and currently have like 10,000 in hospital bills that we ignore (what are they gonna take? all our shiny rocks and sticks? ha! bring it on!)
Do what's going to be the most comfortable for you. You are the #1 person in this situation.
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