So, last night S went into the bathroom to use her potty. She had on a diaper so when she came out, she had nothing on and was running around with her T-shirt on with no bottoms.
My MIL and SIL/BIL and their three kids were over. Their kids are boys 7 and 5 and a girl 18 months.
It was utter and pure chaos. The kids - after sitting at the table for the seder - were so excited to be released that they were wild - laughing and running and jumping and just generally being kids.
I was in the kitchen doing damage control so the dog didn't get up on the table and the next thing I hear is my MIL telling me that S was "showing the boys her privates."
S is two.
What my MIL was all in arms about was S running around with no bottoms on. And her word choice was purely alarmist. She was very clear that she didn't like that and was worried that my child was going to "warp" her cousins since they could see her privates.
I looked her staight in the eye and told her she was worrying about nothing. I told her that I think it is a lot healthier for her male cousins to see female anatomy in a natural non-sexual familial fashion than it was to for them to look at airbrushed bodies in Playboy when they are 11 years old!
(Only afterwards did it dawn on me that I should have told her if she was so damn concerned that she could step in and help Sophie put on a diaper. But that is a whole other story).
S is at a stage right now where she likes to be naked. She also likes to touch herself. We are working on explaining to her that being naked feels good and is just fine but that is something we generally do in private or just with family. Ha. Apparently she views her cousins as family since the last two times she has seen them she has gotten naked.
I felt good about the way I handled it. I didn't get mad. I didn't get upset. I stated my position calmly and conversationally.
I am going to do my damndest to raise a girl with a healthy body image. What kind of 50's parenting bs is that - that she was going to "warp" the boys if they saw her naked!